This year was good. Very, very good.
A the end of 2009, I thought it would suck. Adam was leaving for college, Jakob was about to get his driving license, and... well, stuff was changing.
But then 2010 happened.
Adam did graduate and leave for college. I knew he was ready for college, because I recognized the same signs in him that I felt at his age. I tried, hard, to respect those signs and urges, and I think we did well.
I KNOW we did well. Adam's happy. Jakob is ready to drive solo. I learned and grew in 2010.
Here's the "Best of 2010."
1. Joe learned he won't be twenty forever. The man who has never had a "sore spot" in the last... well, lifetime, of playing sports, suffered some results of aging. And now he's managing them with an increased, all-around work-out schedule. You go, Joe!
2. Adam learned about being independent. He's done well. His grades are good and he's loving college at the University of Minnesota - Morris. His happiness radiates from him when discussing college. He's made friends and likes his professors. He's also learned what it means to be away from home.
3. Jakob learned about succeeding and failing in his beloved arena - sports. He played upper level baseball and lower level basketball. Both sucked for various reasons AND rocked for various reasons. His mother best loved that he gave his all no matter the suck- or rock-level. He's a good boy who always wants to do his best.
I learned the rest...
4. I learned that a family housed under different rooves is still FAMILY. And I love that.
5. I learned that failing is as important as succeeding. Knowing that changes the way I perceive the world.
6. I learned that sometimes love isn't enough. You can't force people to see reason or to come with you on your spiritual journey. The results of that make me sad.
7. I learned that marriage is defined not only by God, but by the people who make it. And the bounds and limits that define a marriage cannot be understood by anyone outside that marriage.
8. I learned that the best way to love people is by being with them when they're doing what they love. Ahem.
9. I learned that I need to expand my mind all the time. So I took Latin and plan to learn Spanish while "brushing up" my German. And I plan to USE those languages. Not even I have any idea how far I'll go. And that makes me happy.
10. I learned that the ONLY thing that matters to me is my marriage. No matter what I do, or say, or think, or feel... I know that I will rest in the arms of my husband at the end of the day. And that makes everything worthwhile - or at least understandable. Praise God.